Hello lovely and amazing human,
Happiest of February greetings to you!
Have you noticed? The energies at play on planet Earth right now are ones of liberation, change and transformation. It is rather exciting.
Part and parcel of this liberation energy is about loosing the “things” that are holding each of us back from our truest expressions of Self.
It is truly time to welcome the flow and movement of what has long and mostly unconsciously been held, to find expression, liberation and freedom.
To allow all the energy that has been leveraged to hold so tightly to the hurts, the stories, the beliefs, the programs of limitation – to whatever it is that is blocking you from your Spirit’s fullest expression to in a word – be liberated.
So let’s take a moment or three and talk about the so called “negative emotions” – anger, rage, jealousy, envy, grief, sadness, bitterness and the like.
I’m willing to be that you don’t particularly love feeling grief, shame, anger, fear, or any of the strong emotions that can cause us to feel vulnerable. The ones we have labeled negative. I know I don’t.
The vast majority of us have been shown and taught by our parents, peer interaction, the “new age” community and the dominant culture to revile these natural responses to outside stimulus and life experiences.
To make them into something shameful, unacceptable and less than what they actually are – a natural part of being a human.
To believe that feeling them is something that will hold us back from having what we truly desire.
Belonging. Love. Acceptance. Fulfilment and more.
Emotions are an actual thing! They are an electrochemical event in the body that absolutely cannot be reasoned away. Emotions want to mooove! Emotions = energy in motion.
Emotions can however be repressed and shoved down, i.e. swallowing anger.
Emotions also carry important messages and information for us. As an old ally said once, it’s like a special delivery package – you have to answer the door and sign your name or you don’t get the package.
For example – anger is usually a boundary violation of some sort. It can also be a default emotion to push others away, because we feel vulnerable. It can often mask, fear, sadness and hurt. Lots of information right there!
We have learned through myriad experiences to negate, push down and hide away these absolutely holy expressions of our own generative Life stream. These important messages that are giving us vital feedback. We have come to believe that they are somehow unacceptable and wrong, so we miss the messages and the free flow of truly being human.
We come to believe that experiencing these less desirable emotions – I prefer this term to negative emotions – somehow makes us a “bad” person.
Of course rationally most of us know this is not the case.
However it is not our rational, adult self that holds this view. It is the youngest and most tender aspects of our selves that has swallowed this misperception and been unable to fully digest it.
Making these “decisions” to push away what we have been told are the “unacceptable” parts of self, the hurt bits, we often don’t realize that we also leave parts of our shining brilliance behind as well.
The young artist who was told that she was not good enough, perhaps embarrassed or made fun of, had difficulty with her handwriting, leaves part of her enthusiasm and magical, joyful, creative spark – which is a direct transmission of her Divinity – behind as well.
The child who is told that she cannot carry a tune in a bucket, or that she talks too much, closes down her channel of authentic expression and communication, her enthusiasm and again the holy expression of her Divinity.
The child that is a brilliant reader but cannot do sums well and is shamed for being “stupid” and because of this comes to believe that they are not “smart” or capable.
As we reclaim our true and authentic self those crystalized emotions, those aspects of self that have been left behind, tightly wrapped in the bonds of those experiences, hurts and injustices, begin to emerge and surface.
This can feel a bit disconcerting to say the least and can also be highly activating.
It is useful to remember that we are not trying to “get rid” of anything! This is a re-claim-ation endeavour. We are not trying to abolish fear. Fear is part and parcel of having a human body. It helps us be safe. What we are endevoring to do is to not have fear throw us around the room and keep us locked behind the door.
We are re-claiming all of the lost or ignored parts of our self. We need all of us to be present, to have voice, to share the wisdom and gifts each aspect holds.
I always see this as a web that has holes in it created by unintegrated life events aka trauma.
As we lovingly reclaim ourselves those holes begin to reweave themselves. Integration takes place. We then have internal support to catch all of life’s experiences so we may respond to them with more grace and equinimity rather than react out of old unresolved patterns.
What if we consciously decide to shift our perceptions and begin to recognize that those seemingly shameful, unaccepted, pushed away emotions and memories are really lost aspects of our self.
Tender young, brilliant and beautiful ones that simply long to return to share their gifts, to be seen, heard, loved and given their rightful seat at the table once more.
Emotions that want to inform us and support in recognizing what is holding us back from our fullest expression and Life.
What if rather than feeling inconvenienced and frustrated – which very well may be what our caregivers, who most likely had boatloads of unprocessed emotions themselves felt – what if we catch ourselves and are kind and tender toward our precious selves.
What if you begin to gently placed a hand just above your heart, pat yourself softly with great love and say to your young selves…
“Oh, honey! I hear you. I know it’s hard. I’m here. I’m RIGHT HERE. Of course you’re feeling sad, mad, frustrated, hurt, fill in the blank. Of course you are! Of course this hurts! Oh, honey! I love you. I am right here”
We cannot go back in time and get our caregivers to say this for us. However we CAN learn to do this for ourselves.
We can start to tenderly unwind and unravel the holding and support our own liberation.
We can heal.
The energies at play on planet Earth right now are ones of liberation, change and transformation. It is rather exciting.
Part and parcel of this liberation energy is about loosing the “things” that are holding each of us back from our truest expressions of Self.
It is truly time to welcome the flow and movement of what has long and mostly unconsciously been held, to find expression, liberation and freedom.
To allow all the energy that has been leveraged to keep us bound so tightly to the hurts, the stories, the beliefs, the programs of limitation – to whatever it is that is blocking you from your Spirit’s fullest expression to in a word – be liberated.
The more we consciously let go of, the more room we have for something that is new, fresh and generatively creative.
The more able you are to step into your own one true spot in the Cosmos. To do what you’ve come to do and be all that you’ve come here to be.
The energies are with you, my friend.
Let’s utilize them!
A few last words….
Please remember, dear one –
To take some time every day….
To sit and breathe deep into your belly.
To sing songs to yourself.
To humm and dance.
To shake and bounce on your toes.
To slow down and allow yourself to integrate all that is going on.
To do absolutely nothing – if only for five minutes.
To notice the beauty around you.
To eat and enjoy delicious foods your body loves.
To come back to your Center as often as you remember.
To tuck yourself sweetly into bed at night.
To hold yourself very lovingly, very gently and oh, so very kindly.
To say out loud three times – “I love my Life. I love my body. I love myself.”
To savor the small moments.
May every single day bring you the sweetest gifts of Wonder, Magic and Beauty…
And when you see them may you remember that these are magnificent reflections of your own amazing Self.
