I grew up in a family that was chaotic and unsafe. When we don’t feel safe, we hone our perception beyond the physical senses – beyond what we can see, hear, taste, feel, or smell.
As a kid, I paid attention and did my best to anticipate what was coming. Because back then, that was the only tool I had. But as we get older and continue to do this, it exposes us to mushy boundaries, to other people ‘draining our energy’, or we can’t get clear about who we are.
So what we have to do is to call ourselves back into our core. And draw an energetic circle around our core, where other people can’t come in. Once we have created that circle and have learned how to maintain it, then we learn that all the information we need comes to us. We don’t need to go out looking.
So from my childhood, this has been my journey. I became a Reiki master almost 30 years ago. I studied with a Native American medicine woman, who taught me how to listen and hear the land, the elements, the trees. (Everyone can do this, by the way). I studied – and used to teach — energy work. I studied Feng Shui for 10 years with the Grandmaster who brought Feng Shui from China into the Western mainstream. I studied meditation in an ashram in India.
At the same time, I had this whole other life in retail and fashion. I worked for Nordstrom, where I was a top buyer, and went on to be an independent sales rep for women’s jewelry and clothing brands. For more than 30 years, this paid the bills and provided for my family as I raised three children by myself. It allowed me to be home and go on field trips with my kids.
But when that time came to an end – and my dad died in 2007, I made a decision: I was never going to do another thing that did not arise from within — from my heart . . . from my soul . . . from my belly. I would allow Life to live me. And go where each moment called me to go.
I became a hypnotherapist. I became a life coach. I continued studying and using energy work with my clients.
As this work continues to unfold, I have learned to trust that what shows up for a client in each moment is the perfect thing. That is where we work. Without judgment. And with total and unconditional acceptance. Whatever comes up is exactly where we need to be.